STILL Single for Another Valentine’s Day

Article by Afi Pittman

Some of us are content in our singles walk and so we don’t dread Valentine’s Day. And that’s great because you don’t HAVE to have a date, boyfriend/girlfriend or spouse to feel great on Valentine’s Day. But I want to dedicate this article to those who get depressed because Valentine’s Day reminds them that yet another year is passing by without God fulfilling a desire of their heart.

Let’s take a quick moment to uncover what’s really causing the heartache. Is it embarrassment because you’re still single past a certain age? Is it anger because you don’t understand how God blessed another woman with a great husband – and she didn’t even want to married? Is it shame or frustration behind your own choices – choices that lead you to pick men (or women) who don’t value or love you? Whatever it is, it’s important that you understand the root of what’s caused you heartache on this day in the past. Otherwise you’ll face another year with the same depression and anger…and God wants to do something new in your life this year!

So here are a few things we all can do to make sure we’re not mourning what we believe we should have on Valentine’s Day:

1.       Put God in His rightful place: I know it sounds cliché, but God is the ultimate Valentine. It’s because of Him that we exist. And (even though I’m not a betting woman) I’d put some money on the fact that you would view your life and yourself differently once you realize who God really is. Which leads me to my next point…

2.       Count your blessings: That saying “it could be worse” is true. Right now there is someone who doesn’t have something you take for granted. If you don’t believe me, volunteer in an orphanage, homeless shelter or other organization that helps people who lack basic life necessities. You’ll realize that yes, there are things you still want in life, but you’ll appreciate what God has given you.

3.       Talk to someone about it: It’s 2014 and I personally can no longer accept how we’re sometimes so quick to label people who struggle with depression. We slap scriptures on them with an accusation that their faith is weak because they’ve fallen into a sadness they can’t shake. But if you’ve counted your blessings and you still can’t get out of bed or the funk won’t lift, talk to a counselor or a trusted pastor or chaplain.

4.       Celebrate with those who celebrate you: Do you have other single friends who would want to go out as a group and do something fun? If so, maybe you all could celebrate Valentine’s Day together and talk about the hopes and dreams you have for love in the future. Dream and hope. Don’t bash and complain. Uplift each other and be grateful that you have a friend, friends or perhaps your own community of like-minded people who want the best for each other.

Love God, love the people He’s given you and love YOU this Valentine’s Day. Most importantly don’t stop believing that God can do it for you!

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