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Are you willing to raise someone else child? Pt. 2: Divine Assignment
I was asked to write a blog about the one with no kids dating someone with children. Interesting enough I thought this would make a great blog because anyone rarely talk about the one with no kids going into a marriage or relationship to the single parents with kids. So here are a few things I want the one without any children to consider before making that type of commitment. I am speaking from experience (my wife was a single parent for 12 years before we married).
One might ask “what is a divine assignment?” It is when the one without children know they heard from God that they should marry someone with children. This won’t happen out of the blue, maybe it’s someone you are dating has a child and you are really liking this person. That’s when you go into prayer about what you should do. This isn’t for everyone, because some think as long as they are in love with the parent and not the children the marriage will work. Many people divorce because they realize they have no control over their “step children.” Let’s look at Joseph in the Bible; he was called to a divine assignment to help raise the Savior of the world in Jesus. What a privilege for Joseph! But what if Joseph refused to father Jesus because He wasn’t biologically his? Before one get into a relationship with someone who has children let’s look at some factors before going into a relationship with the single parent:
-If you marry the person with a child, are you OK with the child if they never call you mom/dad even though you take care of them?
-Have you met the child parent? Is that parent slightly off their rocker? Some of the baby mom/dad are OK with the single parent until they get into a relationship. Now they realize someone else is in the picture so they might like to cause a little drama. Can you handle that?
-The child might be dealing with abandonment issues from their biological parent so what the child do in the process is act out sometimes in rebellious ways. If you hang with the child long enough, they might become attached to you. If the relationship don’t work out the child is let down…again.
-Realize if you marry this person, it’s a package deal. Not just you and their mom or dad, the child is included.
At the end of the day, the payoff is great! God can use anyone to get His will done in the earth. You never know who you will be raising, they can be the next president of the United States or next mega pastor! Will you be obedient if God has you on a divine assignment? That child might just need your love and discipline for them to become everything God has called them to be
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