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Get Out Of Your Way

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YOU CAN’T CONNECT IF “YOU” ARE IN THE WAY

“Your connection determines your direction.” ~ Eddie Connor 

When I’m invited to come speak at a church or conference, I always show up early. I do this to set up my book table, but that’s not the main reason why. The reason is because I want to see each person that comes through the door. I walk up to them, introduce myself, shake their hands, and get to know them a little. So before the service even starts, I would have met at least 90% of the people in the room. Why do I do this? I want to connect with people. And I’ve discovered that the best time to connect with people is before I speak. In other words, there’s a message that people receive before you can even preach your prepared message. People usually discern this message in the meet-and-greet or in the first seven seconds of your presentation. That message is either, “I’m here for YOU” or “I’m here for ME”. If people don’t believe that you’re there for them, it’s going to be very difficult to connect with them.

“You can talk till you are blue in the face, but people know in their gut if you really care about them.” ~ Bridget Haymond

It’s easy to tell if you’re just here for yourself. Here are a few signs:

  • You use big words to impress the people, to make yourself look good
  • You speak more about what you’ve done rather than showing people what they can do.
  • You view your interests as most important.
  • You blame your audience for not understanding you or for not catching the vision.
  • You’re more focused on your image than the message.
  • You see yourself as an expert with an inferior audience.
  • When the group succeeds, you take credit. But when they fail, you blame them.
  • You’re self-centered and it’s all about you.

 “When you do things, do not let selfishness or pride be your guide. Instead, be humble and give more honor to others than to yourselves. Do not be interested only in your own life, but be interested in the lives of others.” Philippians 2:3-4 NCV

If you really want to connect with people, you have to say to yourself, “It’s not about me—it’s about them.” It’s hard to connect with others when you leave them out. This is why your staff resents you. This is why your employees won’t go the extra mile. Now you know why your members don’t give to your church as much. Now you see why no one is supporting your vision. There’s no connection!

“If you want to connect with others, you have to get over yourself. You have to change the focus from inward to outward, off of yourself and onto others.” ~ John C. Maxwell

The foundation of your message has to be, “It’s not about me—it’s about you. I’m here for you.” This will be the start of your connection. Once people connect with you, then it’s on! There’s power in connection.

“If you will first help people get what they want, they will help you get what you want.” ~ Zig Ziglar

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BILLIE MILLER “The Motivational Minister” is a Bible teacher, speaker, and the #1 Amazon Bestselling Author of “Life in Righteousness: The Word is Your Life” and “30 Days of Righteousness: The Word is Your Life Action Plan”. Thousands of lives have been changed through Billie’s powerful teachings. For more information please visit www.BillieMiller.com. Follow Billie on twitter (@BillieMiller7) and on facebook (BillieMillerPage). 

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