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It’s Hard to FORGIVE When You’re DEAD!


Have you ever been hurt by someone? Has anybody ever done you wrong? Did anyone ever cheat you out of anything? Have you ever been treated unfairly? Have people ever talked about you? If you answered “yes” to any of these questions, then this article is for you.

 Guess what? Everyone else has experienced this also. You’re not the only one who has been hurt or done wrong. Every person has gone through this in their life and can expect to experience it again in the future. If you don’t believe me, then just keep on living. Whether you’re a Christian or not, you’re going to experience hurt; everyone experience pain; everyone experience storms. But what separates you from the rest is how you respond to the storms. How you respond to people who hurt you will determine your success or failure.

One of the best ways to bounce back after someone has hurt you is to forgive them. Forgiveness is the first step you need to take in order to move on. But because many of us have been wounded so badly, we find it hard to forgive. You can’t be unwilling to forgive if you want to live a successful life in righteousness. It’s not healthy to have hatred towards people, even if they’ve done you wrong. Case studies have proven that unforgiveness, resentment, and animosity are detrimental to one’s health. It may seem right to hold a grudge against someone who hurt you, but it really isn’t. It’s the worst thing you can do because it doesn’t hurt them…it hurts “you”.

“Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies.”

~ Nelson Mandela

You’re not hurting them, you’re just hurting yourself. It’s not only destroying your health, but it’s causing you to miss out on God.

“And whenever you stand praying, if you have anything against anyone, forgive him, that your Father in heaven may also forgive you your trespasses.

But if you do not forgive, neither will your Father in heaven forgive your trespasses.”

Mark 11:25-26

God forgave you when you weren’t even worthy. You didn’t even deserve it. But He did it because He Loves you. Shouldn’t you extend that same forgiveness towards others? How can you expect God to accept you with your imperfections, but when it comes to others, you leave no room for error. “But Billie, you don’t understand what they did to me…” No, I don’t understand what they did to you, but I understand exactly what this is doing to you—it’s killing you! They’re living their life, not even thinking about you. But you on the other hand, are stressed out, high-blood pressure, about to have a stroke, because you’re holding on to a grudge. Get over it! Get pass the past! Do it before it’s too late, because it’s hard to forgive once you’re dead!

“I will forgive anyone you forgive. Yes, for your sake and with Christ as my witness, I have forgiven whatever needed to be forgiven. I have done this to keep satan from getting the better of us. We all know what goes on in his mind.”

2 Corinthians 2:10-11 CEV

Don’t let the devil get the best of you. Unforgiveness, resentment, animosity, bitterness, holding a grudge…this is not the way to get back at people. Success would work way better.

Be who they said you wouldn’t.

Do what they said you couldn’t.

Live a life that’s pleasing to God and proves them wrong. Not that you’re seeking revenge, but success is the best kind. And you will never become successful until you learn how to forgive.



BILLIE MILLER “The Motivational Minister” is a Bible teacher, speaker, and the #1 Amazon Bestselling Author of “Life in Righteousness: The Word is Your Life” and “30 Days of Righteousness: The Word is Your Life Action Plan”. Thousands of lives have been changed through Billie’s powerful teachings. For more information please visit Follow Billie on twitter (@BillieMiller7) and on facebook (BillieMillerPage).


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