Marriage: 50/50, 40/60, 70/30, 80/20, 10/90, 100/0

Article by Dr. Darcova Triplett

There are many who are quick to point out that “Marriage is a 50/50!” Well, with 13 years of experience as a wife, I can honestly say that, for us, it is a 50/50, 40/60, 70/30, 80/20, 10/90, 100/0. There are some days when there is a total balance. Everything is in order. Everything falls in sync. Todd does his half. I do my half. He cooks. I clean. He sets the agenda. I follow-through with the plan. We complement each other to a Tee and our marriage is in Perfect Harmony.

And then there are days when (in my opinion) he’s insensitive and (in his opinion) I’m stubborn. Somebody is emotional. Somebody is careless. Somebody is oblivious. Somebody is overreacting. Somebody is slacking. Somebody is tired. Somebody is sleepy. Somebody is jealous. Somebody is selfish. Somebody is not affectionate. Somebody feels unappreciated. Somebody is too assertive. Somebody needs to watch her tone. Somebody needs to open up more and share his thoughts. Real Talk.

It is in those times that- because of our commitment to “til death do us part”- that 40/60, 70/30, 80/20, 10/90, 100/0 kicks into gear. We have learned that we share the desire to live, love, laugh… cry and fight for our Union. With that being said, the percentages get thrown out the window and somebody goes above and beyond. We believe whole-heartedly that our Marriage has an Ordained Purpose and that God will continue to provide everything necessary for us to be Productive and Prosperous.

Bonus: So, what do I do when the numbers just don’t add up and it feels like I’m carrying the marriage on my shoulders? I TELL MY DADDY! I have come to the understanding that can’t nobody fix it, fix him, fix me, fix US… like Our Creator.

Prayer, Patience, Practice… Perfect Harmony.

Couples Testimonials:

The best thing about our marriage is that we value each other- time apart and time together. DweeJay Flow

The best thing about our marriage is that it makes us grow and develop into the people God has ordained us to be. Daxter and Angela Benton

The best thing about our marriage is that we refuse to allow outside influences to ruin it. Robert and Gloria Lathen

The best thing about our marriage is that we realize we are an army at war. As long as we battle together and not apart, we will always be victorious. Ted and Kim Sykes

The best thing about our marriage is that it is God designed. He orchestrated everything about it from the courtship to the ceremonies, and he continues to confirm our union with each passing day as we serve Him together with all our heart. Franklin and Arletia Mayfield

The best thing about our marriage is I married my best friend! Brian and Helki Pruitt

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